StandBy - Support After Suicide

Dedicated to assisting people and communities impacted by suicide across Australia.

Suicide can impact people in very different ways.  Losing someone to suicide can be overwhelming and confusing and can present a wide range of emotions.

StandBy provides you with access to support and resources you may find helpful.   

Who we support

We support anyone who has been impacted by suicide at any stage in their life, including:

  • Individuals, families and friends
  • Witnesses
  • Schools, workplaces and community groups
  • First responders and service providers

If you are currently having suicidal thoughts, please seek immediate assistance by calling Lifeline on 13 11 14If you or someone you are with is in need of immediate support please call an ambulance or Police on 000.

What we do

  • We provide free face-to-face and telephone support at a time and place that is best for you
  • The service is accessible 24/7, providing direct and coordinated support from local services and groups in your area
  • We offer expertise, understanding and resources for your particular situation
  • Follow up contact is continued for up to 1 year to ensure you are not alone and receive any ongoing support you may need
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Vision

We envision a future where all Australians bereaved by suicide receive community respect, understanding and support.

Purpose

We are dedicated to supporting people and communities across Australia affected by suicide.

Aim

We aim to reduce suicide ideation and improve mental health outcomes for those bereaved or impacted by suicide.

Find Support

StandBy provides support services all around Australia.
Click on the map or name of region below to find support in your area.

  • ACT
  • Brisbane North & South
  • Central QLD, Wide Bay & Sunshine Coast
  • Country SA
  • Kimberley
  • Murray
  • Pilbara
  • North Coast NSW
  • Northern Queensland
  • Northern Territory
  • North West Central QLD
  • Tasmania
  • OTHER
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  • ACT
  • Brisbane North & South
  • Central QLD, Wide Bay & Sunshine Coast
  • Country SA
  • Kimberley
  • Murray
  • Pilbara
  • North Coast NSW
  • Northern Queensland
  • Northern Territory
  • North West Central QLD
  • Tasmania
  • OTHER
  • ACT
  • Brisbane North & South
  • Central QLD, Wide Bay & Sunshine Coast
  • Country SA
  • Kimberley
  • Murray
  • Pilbara
  • North Coast NSW
  • Northern Queensland
  • Northern Territory
  • North West Central QLD
  • Tasmania
  • OTHER


Resources
 

View our Resource Library for:

  • Helpful information sheets
  • Brochures in other languages
  • Useful books and websites
  • Ideas for support
  • Ideas for self care
  • Links for Professionals
  • Other services for support nationally

Read more…

What Happens Now?

The days following a suicide can be overwhelming, read about what you may be involved with in the coming days to help you prepare.

Unanswered Questions

There is no simple answer to why someone ends their own life. Our help sheet may help with understanding how the person was feeling.

Supporting Children

Suicide impacts the whole family and younger members can be particularly vulnerable. Read our tips for helping children cope and understand.

Witnessing a Suicide

Anyone who has witnessed a suicide can experience stress and trauma, read about how you may be affected and ways to help you cope and recover.

About Us

StandBy – Support after Suicide is a program of United Synergies, established in 2002 to meet the need for a coordinated community response to suicide. StandBy is now recognised as Australia’s leading suicide postvention program dedicated to assisting people and communities impacted by suicide.

In Australia, more than 2,800 people take their own life each year. Research indicates that for every death through suicide 135 people are impacted and ten or more are significantly affected. StandBy provides free telephone or face-to-face support by local caring staff, committed to the wellbeing of the person or group affected. The program provides a central point of coordination, connecting people to the various supports they may need through referrals to services, groups and organisations within their local area.

StandBy operates nationally by partnering with local organisations, engaging their expertise within the community to deliver the most effective and culturally suitable support for each individual circumstance. Locally tailored community workshops and education programs are provided to increase awareness of suicide and suicide bereavement to help enable communities to support one another.

For more information please contact our StandBy Office.

Support

We support individuals, families, friends, witnesses, schools, workplaces, frontline responders, communities and service providers who have been bereaved by or impacted by suicide.

Contactable

We offer telephone or face-to-face support, at a time and place that is best for you. Follow up calls are continued for up to 12 months. There is no charge for this service.

Info + Links

Depending on need, we are able to arrange follow-on support from existing local services and groups, or simply provides information and links to other available services.

Community

StandBy works with the community to deliver workshops and education programs to encourage and enable increased knowledge and awareness of suicide and suicide bereavement.

Your Stories

My life changed dramatically the day my youngest daughter Shelley took her own life. 7th December 2015. The date is scorched into my brain. I am now 2 years down the track from that awful, soul destroying day. But I couldn’t have done it without some help.


The amazing people from StandBy came to visit my family & I in the very early days. Our minds were muddled and confused. What to do first? Where to turn? The beautiful ladies arrived armed with Teddy Bears, comfort and knowledge. They guided us through each step with compassion and understanding. They knew our hurt and helped us progress through the next couple of weeks. They suggested we attend a monthly support group that was close to our home.


As I’m sure you can imagine. None of us were feeling remotely social. But let me tell you now. We walked around the corner of the building, to find 20 pairs of eyes looking at us. Kind eyes. Sad eyes. Knowledgeable eyes. This amazing group of people knew just how I felt without me even speaking. I cried for the first year at each meeting. But I have learned so many coping tools through listening to others stories. I have gained strength from the compassion given to me by other people with the same experiences. And I can proudly say, that 2 years on. I too can now offer a shoulder to lean on. An ear to listen with. Arms to give hugs with and experiences to learn from. I am now part of that group with their kind, sad & all knowing eyes. They saved my sanity when I thought I would never ever gain clarity in my thoughts again.

On the cloudiest of days in our lives there is always a silver lining. Trust me.

Karen from Sunshine Coast Qld

2018-01-31T01:48:20+00:00

Karen from Sunshine Coast Qld

My life changed dramatically the day my youngest daughter Shelley took her own life. 7th December 2015. The date is scorched into my brain. I am now 2 years down the track from that awful, soul destroying day. But I couldn’t have done it without some help. The amazing people from StandBy came to visit my family & I in the very early days. Our minds were muddled and confused. What to do first? Where to turn? The beautiful ladies arrived armed with Teddy Bears, comfort and knowledge. They guided us through each step with compassion and understanding. They knew our hurt and helped us progress through the next couple of weeks. They suggested we attend a monthly support group that was close to our home. As I’m sure you can imagine. None of us were feeling remotely social. But let me tell you now. We walked around the corner of the building, to find 20 pairs of eyes looking at us. Kind eyes. Sad eyes. Knowledgeable eyes. This amazing group of people knew just how I felt without me even speaking. I cried for the first year at each meeting. But I have learned so many coping tools through listening to others stories. I have gained strength from the compassion given to me by other people with the same experiences. And I can proudly say, that 2 years on. I too can now offer a shoulder to lean on. An ear to listen with. Arms to give hugs with and experiences to learn from. I am now part of that group with their kind, sad & all knowing eyes. They saved my sanity when I thought I would never ever gain clarity in my thoughts again. On the cloudiest of days in our lives there is always a silver...

After the deaths by suicide of our youngest daughter Angela and our only son Stuart just one month apart I was understandably devastated. If felt that I was the only mother to have lost two children to suicide and spent countless hours questioning where we had gone wrong. I knew that if I had to live through this experience, I would need to learn from it. I spent many sessions in counselling and put in hours of very hard work making some sense of our tragedy.

After a few years, I realized that others could learn from my experience too. I began to advocate for others, and spoke at forums and information sessions about suicide prevention.

I find this work very rewarding and see it as a way to honour both Angela and Stuart.

Alannah from Victoria

2018-01-31T01:37:36+00:00

Alannah from Victoria

After the deaths by suicide of our youngest daughter Angela and our only son Stuart just one month apart I was understandably devastated. If felt that I was the only mother to have lost two children to suicide and spent countless hours questioning where we had gone wrong. I knew that if I had to live through this experience, I would need to learn from it. I spent many sessions in counselling and put in hours of very hard work making some sense of our tragedy. After a few years, I realized that others could learn from my experience too. I began to advocate for others, and spoke at forums and information sessions about suicide prevention. I find this work very rewarding and see it as a way to honour both Angela and Stuart.

It is important to keep things a normal as possible for children, particularly routines and expectations. Children need predictability and boundaries. These should be adhered to as much as possible to create a secure environment within the uncertainty and chaos.

Judith from South Australia

2018-01-16T05:49:53+00:00

Judith from South Australia

It is important to keep things a normal as possible for children, particularly routines and expectations. Children need predictability and boundaries. These should be adhered to as much as possible to create a secure environment within the uncertainty and chaos.

At the time when I lost my husband, StandBy wasn’t available to me. Now that I’ve learned about your service and what you can offer to a bereaved family I feel like that kind of service would have been exactly what I would have needed at the time. We were all so lost and confused and didn’t know where to start looking for answers. I now promote StandBy as much as possible so others can get the support that I would have benefitted from.

Anonymous from ACT

2018-01-16T13:33:55+00:00

Anonymous from ACT

At the time when I lost my husband, StandBy wasn’t available to me. Now that I’ve learned about your service and what you can offer to a bereaved family I feel like that kind of service would have been exactly what I would have needed at the time. We were all so lost and confused and didn’t know where to start looking for answers. I now promote StandBy as much as possible so others can get the support that I would have benefitted from.

Acknowledgement


We promote respect, equality and the inclusion of all members of the community. We value the experiences and courage of people bereaved or impacted by suicide at such a tragic time, and the willingness of local communities to support them. We acknowledge the first peoples and traditional custodians on whose land we work. We especially acknowledge the Aboriginal elders (past, present and emerging) and pay tribute to their stewardship and contribution to community. This acknowledgement is integral to the process of healing, recovery and the sustaining of future relationships. May we all work together in the spirit of reconciliation towards a shared vision of hope and unity.

Support Us

 

Your Support Will Make a Difference

Volunteer

If you live within a StandBy site you could assist by voluntarily helping with

  • Events StandBy is hosting
  • Practical needs of others impacted by suicide
  • Telling others you know about what StandBy does

Please ring your closest StandBy site to speak with the Coordinator about possibilities.

If you live in other areas you may like to assist by

  • Providing quotes and tips we can use in resources, training and the media
  • Providing feedback on information we have developed and our service to help us improve

Please ring 0429 147 491 to speak with a member of our National StandBy Team about possibilities.

Donate

In Memoria
A thoughtful way to pay tribute to the life of a loved one or friend is to provide a donation that StandBy can use to help others impacted by suicide. This could include leaving a gift in your will. Your generosity will help us support others at such a tragic time in their lives.

Contact Us

If you or your community has been impacted by suicide please contact your local support site.

For general enquiries please use the contact form and details below

For media enquiries, contact:
Tessa Biddles, tbiddles@unitedsynergies.com.au, 0437 196 026
Naomi Fowkes, nfowkes@unitedsynergies.com.au, 0427 361 174

For National StandBy office administrative enquiries, contact is available during Qld business hours. 
Please note this is not a crisis or support office.

M: 0429 147 491
E: standbynational@unitedsynergies.com.au
Mail: StandBy Support After Suicide – PO Box 365, Tewantin, QLD 4565